It has been quite the year in this ever-changing world. From the economic meltdown to the chaotic division in so many political arenas across the globe, many have had drastic change in their own respective situations. But are they really ALL bad? Things are certainly portrayed that way in the mainstream. Society seems to feed off of all of these occurrences in no other way than doom and gloom! Do you?

Everyone goes through tough times. We all do. It does not matter who you are. So how do you get the good out of a tough time, or why do some people who are facing such hard ship seem to still be fun going people while others in the same situation are flat out depressed?

A lot of this has to do with our conditioning that we allow ourselves to be controlled by. The simple fact of the matter is that if you watch the news every day you are a more miserable person. I don’t mean you are a mean or bad person but the bottom line is that you see more depressing things day after day. There is no way your mental state can take that over and over and not be affected by it.  Don’t believe me? Go to cnn.com and look at the headlines. At this moment of me writing this there are seventeen headlines. Fifteen contain something very negative, one is neutral, and one is happy. Take this in every day and you become numb. It is a reality. This in turn changes your whole world and outlook on life. If you don’t believe me try going without watching the news for a month. Not only will you feel better in your every day life but your perspective in handling occurrences that do not go the way you want will drastically change. Your mind is not constantly defaulting to the negative programming. It has a chance to use that great word we like to call “Perspective” in a positive light.

Putting things in a positive perspective has been something I have really learned to do in the last few years. We are all human and at times all face things that seem like they will be the end of us. Often, the end of us seems like it would be a relief from some of the anxiety and stress that we might have to take on. There is nothing worse than having that feeling in the pit of your stomach accompanied by your brain saying…I have no answer and I am thinking so fast I can’t even begin to put thoughts together to get me out of this. Ever been there? My guess is yes you have and for many this has happened in the last year or so. What to do?

In those times though we all have choices. We can lie down and accept that we are powerless and that things are just bad for us, meaning we are victims, or we can choose to look at the new possibilities that we are now presented with. I would even break it down and say one should write down all of the new things that are now possible because of such life-changing occurrence. Notice I did not say the negative experience. When you write this down you give yourself something to look at which really will sink in if you keep it visible. Just like that bad news…the good stuff absorbs in if you look at it enough. Soon your bad situation, even if it leaves you in a temporary bind, will become something you have taken and turned into a new fun adventure in your life. That is what life is all about, right? No new adventures and we become lifeless.
In all of this process make sure you take inventory of all that is in your life. Look at your friends and family and how much care you have in your life. That stuff is what is truly important. The other things matters as well but in a different manner and you can get it again if you want it bad enough, regardless of what it is that you lost. Bottom line is that after the initial shock of your situation you have a choice in how you will manage life. Write it down and let the positive overtake the negative. You can do this. It does work.

The reality here is that we can find the good out of even the harshest of times. It all starts with our conditioning. Please be careful about what you allow yourself to be around and take in. It really does affect everything else in life… even when you just can’t see it. Think about that for a second. Negative creates negative whether you can see it or not. Take a step back after the shock of your situation and write down all of the things that are going to be possible in the future because of your current situation. Look around at your loved ones and remember what is important. Positive perspective is king.

Do a few of these things above and you will find that tough situations can really turn into new adventures in life. Even if you can’t see it at first give this stuff a shot. What have you got to lose? I believe in ya!

To Your Continued Success
Young Guns Always Wanted (by the way….age is only a number)
Wesley Anderson