Over the last few years in the “real world” I have really studied human behavior quite a bit, even more than I did when I was a psych major in college. Many would say that the college psych degree is why I am pretty good at reading certain things/people. I would say do you remember anything from college outside of dime drafts and wing night? I don’t so let’s let the school thing go for now.

Why do people do what they do if there end result is not what they want? I know that sounds kind of silly but hang on for a second I have a point I promise. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. We all nod in approval believing that it is crazy that people do this, but we forget to look in the mirror and realize that we have to stop making justifications as to how that is not applicable to our own lives.

I hear all of the time I have a case of the Mondays…I can’t wait till Friday. I hate work. I hate where I live. I hate my situation. So I have a question for you. Why don’t you do something about it? You really can. It just takes some effort young gun.

You don’t have to have a case of the Mondays. You can celebrate every day if you want to bad enough. But you have to stop justifying that you don’t have this issue and you have to have enough hurt in you to want it to stop. When the hurt is bad enough you will justify doing what it takes. Or you can look at it today and realize that the hurt is so bad that you don’t even feel it anymore. If that is the case then it’s time to make that change! Stop doing the same thing over and over.

You learned to walk by falling down over and over. You learned to ride a bike by falling down over and over and then getting up and trying again. Each time you learned a new lesson on how to do such things and continued on with your journey towards those goals until it became second nature. Odds are now that you walk with no real effort. [No pun or any intention of offending anyone out there who does not have these luxuries…just making an easy to understand point here]. So why not remember the lessons of the infant…they seemed to work pretty good, yes?

I believe that being happy and doing what you want to do can become as basic to you as walking is. You just have to train yourself to do so. You have to eliminate the self- limiting beliefs that say being happy in life is any different or harder than walking is. Get rid of that and you start your journey. Don’t get me wrong we all have our days…but they can just be days…not years or our entire existence.

If you have the Monday’s I would suggest that you look to do something that makes you happy. I don’t care if you are 20 or 60. You deserve to live not to survive.  Find a different career and go for it!

Problems YOU have to get past: I am afraid of failing. I don’t want people to think I am un-cool or crazy.

Why these are stupid: Because you learned to walk by failing many times. You just picked yourself up each time and gave it more effort. Second, being un-cool is the new cool. There you have it from me. Being a heretic no longer gets you burned. It makes you happy and celebrated. You just have to not care what those think while you are doing it. Trust me the masses will follow suit. They always do.

I could go on and on about this subject, but I will save more for another day. I hope that all know that they are responsible for their own happiness. I hope all know that you can ALWAYS change no matter what. I hope that people will stop ruining themselves by listening to all of the horror and negativity out there. It does nothing but make you believe you are not worthy of such a wonderful life. I hope all of you know that people DO believe in you. I certainly do.

If you want some help shoot me an email and maybe I can throw a few ideas out there for ya.

And remember:

Be a kid again. It looks good on ya.

Off to go for a run in the rain. Until sooner my friends.

To your continued success
Young Guns Always Wanted
Wesley Anderson