Oh Anderson you have gone too far. Oh well get over it. I like to take the stuff we all think about it and bring it to light again. I think one of the best attributes that I possess is the ability to take something complicated and put it in Layman’s terms. At times that does not make me the most prominent speaker or trainer amongst peers but alas that is not my goal. My goal is to do a speech or train and have people say I get it or hey I can actually do that. The day that I become too polished will be the day that I know I am not what I want to be. It’s like not being nervous before a speech or training. If I am not nervous it means I just don’t care enough. Enough rambling already! The topic is sex not you!
I would be curious as to how you will respond to this. Do you pay attention to how your sexual life affects the rest of your life? Remember…sex is about dopamine. The drive for more is the same as it is with any other drug. But like any other drugs, which most do not want to acknowledge, with the high of the orgasm there comes the low afterwards due to the depletion of dopamine, which can seriously alter mood.
To my knowledge (which we could say has limits for sure ☺) Napoleon Hill was the first to really take this topic into the free enterprise world. The man was clearly before his time in what he wrote about. Many of you self-developers would say, as I would, he is the first person to open up one’s eyes to self-development and heretical thinking. Randy Gage, who is a mentor and pal of mine, told me when I first got started in my company to go and directly buy Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich.” Being that I am good at following directions I immediately argued with him about how I did not need such a stupid book. A short while later, upon reading the book, I realized that the SOB had me thinking it was my idea to buy the book that soon transformed my whole world of thinking. Thanks Gage I really do appreciate ya! The long story is that it is an amazing book. The short of it is that I remember reading the chapter on sexual energy and thinking this guys is amazing in all of this book except this chapter. I was 27 at the time…what else was I supposed to think! For those of you who have not read this chapter head on down and grab the book. In summary I am not sure what the words actually said but it looked something to me like…Wes…don’t always have sex. Use your sexual energy in a smart manner. The Idiot — what did he know!
Upon touching the stove over and over (picture Bart Simpson here) I finally decided to listen a bit to what the universe might be telling me. In the last few months, and I am not being inappropriate here, I have been experimenting a bit with my sexual schedule. Forgive my elegance with words here, as I am not a sexual expert (like so many of my stud and stud-et readers are)!
So…When do you get off? I don’t want an answer from any of you. But do you ever pay attention to the effect of such things? As I have started to pay attention to myself at the ripe age of 30 (at least for another month) I have noticed that if I can wait till the nighttime to do the deed my days are far more productive in business. I feel that I have a little more extra energy also. If I have a lot of important things on my plate at one time I will try to go a few days without such release. What I find is that my focus is much more acute and I actually have a bit more of an edge. I also find that I am attracted to people a little bit more in a good way. I think that we are sexual creatures and it is a part of the game of life and business. I just think at ALL times you must be respectful and use the other head in the decision process. Sexual attraction is a reality in all aspects of life. If you just got holier than though on me I would ask you to look real hard in the mirror and be serious for a second. You might mask it somehow but come on be real here. Being honest about this does not make you an immoral person or even sexually deviant, as long as you are still using your brain and have some sense of morality. People tend to flirt to get business. They tend to want to be around people they are attracted to. I find that if my sexual energy is at the right level more people are more attractive which in turns into a wider array of business opportunity. Please note balance is the key word.
Ok Anderson so why not just be totally abstinent? That is the interesting part. Abstinence is just the opposite of too much and that is obviously not a good thing. At some point, which you must identify for yourself, the energy backfires and a little stress release can do wonders. Finding a balance and trying to control yourself in terms of timing of that release can really give you an advantage over most other individuals out there. I don’t think that I have to twist your arm to have you agree that most of the population really does lack such control. The question is will you listen to this as a reminder and gain an advantage or will you have to touch the stove over and over and learn the hard way?
Personally, I hope you choose the short route.
Sexual energy is powerful. Learn to control it and balance it and you can really speed up your road to greatness!
To Your Success
Young Guns Always Wanted
Wesley Anderson
Well you mean you actually started listening to me?
Interesting note: When I began studying Kung Fu, and wanted to break bricks my Sifu insisted that I not have sex for 30 days before hand. And believe me, after 30 days anyone can break anything!
Once I started studying Tantric sex, I learned how to have orgasms without ejaculation, which allows you the pleasure of love making, but still able to keep your “chi” or sexual energy. A book you may find interesting is, “Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy.”
-RG